If you follow me on Twitter you might’ve seen me tweeting about the gig I was at last night. The Mr is a drummer and has been in bands since we got together 8 whole years ago. I’ve been to (pretty much) every gig, from dingy basements to huge arenas, with three people to three hundred. I’ve carried cymbals, driven tour vans and drank lots of beer from plastic cups. I’ve warded off groupies, sold CDs and moshed ’til the wee hours. Hell, I’ve even been on stage a few times!
In the early days, we’d go to at least two gigs a week. A big group of us would travel by any means necessary, rocking up at random pubs with guitars slung over our shoulders. We’d commandeer a corner, drink beer, eat crisps and take photos. We were the inner circle, we got shout outs during sets and we knew all the words. We were at college or uni with no jobs to worry about, blasting Brand New from our cars and eating McDonald’s. As cliché as it sounds, it was a golden age.
My ‘girlfriend of the band’ uniform was always the same – skinny jeans, vintage band tees, Converse boots, stacks of bangles and plenty of black eyeliner. Last night, as I looked around at young girls wearing Urban Outfitters and channelling Alexa Chung, it got me thinking about how much has changed in the relatively short time the band has been… well, disbanded.
Last night’s gig was their first in over a year, and before that they were playing one offs as favours for friends. I wore a cute skirt, cream suede pumps and carried my bag at all times. I drank Diet Coke, sat on a proper chair rather than perching on the bar, and left at 10.30pm. And if I’m really honest, I didn’t mind. I am older now. Touring the country isn’t part of life any more. It was brilliant fun to catch up with friends and enjoy live music from the sidelines. I still got that feeling of immense pride when the Mr picked up his sticks and went crazy. But I was more than happy to jump in my car afterwards, drive home and put on my PJs.
Is there anything you do differently now to when you were younger? Has your style matured, your attitude towards things changed, the way you interact with people developed? Or are you still exactly the same person, just a few years older? I’d love to know.