Although A Little Bird was only hatched nine months ago, I’ve been documenting my life for quite some time. I started on paper, upgraded to an Open Diary, then Live Journal, followed by MySpace, Facebook and Tumblr before finally settling here. I’ve been blogging in a variety of guises for 10 years, and during that time I’ve had my fair share of issues.
In this regular feature, I’ll be exploring and discussing some of the things we, as bloggers of any description, face every day. And we’re starting with a biggie – jealousy.
(Can I squeeze an outfit in first? Come on, you won’t even notice it. Just a quick one…)
Okay, enough of that. Down to the serious stuff.
I refuse to believe there’s a blogger out there who has yet to turn slightly green whilst perusing another blog. Blogger jealousy comes in many forms – follower envy (as in, they have more than you), comment envy (as in, they have more than you), money envy (as in… you get it), style envy, home envy, designer label envy, lifestyle envy… on and on it goes. There is a rivalry between bloggers thats breeds this jealousy and it can often lead to deleted blogs, hate-filled comments and even out-and-out war.
As bloggers go head to head, brandishing their Google Analytics stats, waving their sponsorships and clutching their freebies, every aspect of our blogs is scrutinised. What does this comment mean? Why have I lost a follower? If I give in to LOOKBOOK, will I get more hits? (All questions I’ve muttered to myself while refreshing the page obsessively.)
Over the last few months, I’ve been suffering quite badly with stress. My blog started as an escape from everyday life, a place to share and enjoy fashion. I didn’t mean for it to morph into a gauntlet for battle, but I find myself constantly comparing this blog to others, wondering why growth is quicker for them than it is for me, why they do this, how they do that.
Well, I’m taking a stand. I will not obsess over the numbers. I will not compare myself to other blogs. I will remind myself that my blog is an amazing achievement because people outside my immediate family read it. I won’t chastise myself for missing the all-important Monday post. I will stop trying to categorise myself and my posts, and I will remember the reason I started doing this – to share, to connect, to enjoy. Will you join me?